Perasaan was-was selalu menghinggapi wanita yang sedang hamil tua disaat melakukan ML, namun disaat hamil tua ini juga sang wanita sering merasakan libido yang meluap-luap. Sementara sang pria kerap melihat istrinya bertambah cantik saat sedang hamil tua, apalagi mengetahui ukuran BH-nya menjadi bertambah. Bagaimana dengan risiko?
Keinginan bercinta memang kerap tak mengenal waktu atau kondisi. Sebutlah Vina, 28, yang kini tengah mengandung anak kedua. Ia selalu berharap ML bisa berjalan seperti biasa, bahkan kehamilan tak harus jadi penghalang. “Meski saya harus meniadakan atraksi-atraksi berbahaya, seperti posisi yang aneh-aneh. Soalnya kehamilan pertama saya aman-aman saja,” ujarnya.
Posisi yang aman memang harus menjadi pertimbangan utama saat seorang wanita sedang hamil tua. Sebab, saat usia kehamilan mendekati waktu melahirkan, bisa saja tiba-tiba dorongan seksual wanita akan hilang. Pasalnya, saat itu sudah mulai timbul rasa sakit di rahim, serta semakin besarnya beban yang dipikul karena kehamilan yang semakin besar.
Pada situasi seperti ini, suami seharusnya bisa memperhitungkan antara dorongan seksualnya dan dorongan seksual istri. Termasuk mempertimbangkan kondisi kesehatan istri. Jika gangguan masih terjadi pada istri, suami harus harus bisa mengendalikan dorongan seksualnya untuk tak melakukan hubungan seksual. Sebagaimana istri tak menuntut melakukan hubungan seksual karena kondisinya, maka suami pun harus juga bisa mengerti masalah yang dihadapi istrinya.
Saat usia kehamilan sudah di atas tujuh bulan, biasanya sudah muncul hambatan karena rahim yang sudah membesar. Jika segala posisi dipaksakan, tentu akan membebani pihak istri. Karena itu, dalam keadaan hamil besar, sebaiknya hubungan dilakukan dengan pria pada posisi di belakang wanita.
Hubungan dilakukan sambil berbaring miring menghadap satu arah. "Selain lebih mengurangi ketidaknyamanan pada wanita, posisi ini juga bisa mengurangi tekanan pada dinding rahim," jelas Wimpie Pangkahila, konsultan seks yang kerap tampil dalam berbagai seminar.
Bagaimana dengan posisi lain? Bisa-bisa saja dicoba tapi kemungkinan besar akan membebani pihak wanita. Misal, hubungan dilakukan sambil duduk dan wanita berada di atas pria. Tapi, wanita bisa terlalu payah jika memaksakan diri melakukan hubungan seksual dengan posisi ini.
Yang paling penting saat melakukan semua posisi seks selama kehamilan ini adalah pasangan pria jangan meletakkan berat badan ke perut pasangannya yang sedang hamil tua selama hubungan seksual, atau jangan sekali-kali memberikan tekanan di perut ibu hamil.
Hal terpenting lainnya, hindari melakukan foreplay dengan meremas payudara pasangan wanita yang sedang hamil tua. Sebab, sedikit saja Anda memberikan sentuhan pada area payudara, terkadang bisa menimbulkan nyeri yang luar biasa pada pasangan wanita. Jangan takut foreplay yang kurang bisa menghambat pasangan Anda untuk mendapatkan orgasme. Sebab, banyak wanita hamil tua yang merasakan kenikmatan berlebih dibanding biasanya. Sebab pada masa ini, cairan vagina lebih meningkat dan terjadi perubahan pada area genital yang membuat beberapa wanita justru lebih bisa merasakan orgasme.
ref:inilah.com
ML Saat Hamil Tua Bisa Tetap Nikmat
Mengapa Wanita Sulit Orgasme!
JIKA Anda belum pernah mencapai orgasme, Anda tidak sendirian. Penelitian menunjukkan sekitar 10 persen wanita belum pernah mengalami orgasme dan 50 persen wanita mengalami masalah sulit terangsang.
Mengapa ada begitu banyak wanita yang sulit mencapai klimaks? Menurut Dr Gail Saltz dan Dr Drew Pinsky, ahli masalah seksual dari Amerika, ada beberapa penyebab, salah satunya perbedaan biologis dan perbedaan pengetahuan tiap wanita tentang tubuhnya.
Untuk Anda yang ingin mengetahui apa saja faktor-faktor penyebabnya, buku Seni Menikmati Seks karya Andreas Lee Tan mampu menjawabnya:
Faktor Biologis dan Psikologis
Meski belum bisa dibuktikan secara ilmiah, namun para ahli menduga ada perbedaan faktor biologis, dalam hal ini sensitivitas pada rangsangan, pada sesama wanita. Itu sebabnya ada wanita yang setiap berhubungan bisa mencapai dua kali orgasme, tapi ada pula yang belum pernah orgasme meski sudah menikah bertahun-tahun.
Faktor lain yang sangat berpengaruh adalah faktor psokologis. Meski jaman sudah modern, masih banyak wanita yang tidak mau menuntut terlalu banyak dalam perkawinannya. Wanita dalam golongan ini biasanya memandang hubungan seksual sebagai pelayanan kepada suami, bukan hubungan intim yang seharusnya memuaskan kedua belah pihak. Akibatnya wanita itu akan bersikap pasrah pada sikap pasangan.
Menurut dokter Saltz, dua faktor tersebut, bilogis dan psikologis, akan mempengaruhi saraf di otak sehingga ada hambatan untuk mencapai klimaks. Persoalan akan semakin parah jika seorang wanita tidak memiliki pengetahuan yang cukup soal organ intimnya sehingga tidak tahu bagaimana menuntun pasangan untuk membantunya mencapai klimaks.
Butuh Variasi
Pria dan wanita merupakan dua makhluk yang berbeda, termasuk dalam hal mencapai kepuasan seksual. Secara umum rata-rata dibutuhkan waktu 20 menit mulai dari perangsangan hingga intercourse sebelum wanita mencapai klimaks. Sedangkan pada pria waktunya lebih singkat lagi.
Selain itu wanita membutuhkan banyak variasi foreplay, termasuk saling menggoda dan cumbu rayu. Keterbukaan komunikasi sangat penting di sini, misalnya menunjukkan daerah sensitif mana yang senang untuk disentuh atau cara berhubungan seperti apa yang sedang diinginkan. Menurut dokter Pinsky, hanya 20 persen wanita yang bisa mencapai orgasme hanya dengan intercourse, sisanya stimulasi secara oral.
Faktor-faktor lain yang mempengaruhi pencapaian orgasme seorang wanita di antaranya, obat-obatan (antidepresan dan antihistamin), kecemasan, depresi, alkohol, perubahan hormon, menopause, memiliki bayi, serta rasa takut dan malu terhadap seks.
Kepuasan seksual merupakan hak setiap orang dalam suatu perkawinan. Terganggunya kehidupan seksual akan menyebabkan gangguan pada aspek kehidupan lainnya. Jadi jangan ragu bisa meminta bantuan ahli untuk mengatasi hambatan seksual, baik psikis maupun fisik.
Vaginal Lubricants can Damage Sperm
Accustomed to use vaginal lubricants during ML? Be careful, because some studies reveal the use of vaginal lubricants damage uncontrolled sperm quality.
Currently one-third to half of couples who are sexually active often use a vaginal lubricant during ML. This usage highlighted several researchers in Ohio, because the results revealed the use of these lubricants can damage sperm quality.
Dr. Ashok Agarwal of the Cleveland Clinic, Ohio, and colleagues tested the vaginal lubricant products are sold freely, the ability of sperm to move, and the influence of three lubricants on sperm chromatin quality.
The study involved tests on semen samples taken from 12 men, the results turned out to vaginal lubricants (Replens, Astroglide, and FemGlide) resulted in a significant decrease in the ability of sperm to move 30-minute intervals after exposure to exposure.
According to the research Fertility and Strerility, other lubricants (Pre-Seed) did not cause a significant reduction in the ability of sperm to move, when compared with normal sperm samples.
Sperm chromatin damage also increased significantly after exposure to other lubricant products FemGlide (KY Jelly) and there was little damage, although not statistically significant after exposure to the Pre-Seed.
In the study showed a waterproof grease that does not contain ingredients such as FemGlide sperm destroyer, Astroglide, and Replens has a bad effect on the ability of sperm to move. And the quality of chromatin.
Moisturizers Pre-Seed intimacy have minimal adverse impact on the ability to move or quality of sperm chromatin may be caused by the ph level and the formula is more physiological isotonisnya, when compared with other products.
"Our findings concluded that the Pree-Seed may be a promising treatment for vaginal dryness experienced by infertile couples who are trying to get pregnant. Nevertheless, the experiment in vivo large scale is still needed to support these findings."
Preventing Fetal Fall
"It could all kinds," said dr. RB Ontowiryo HP, obstetrics and diseases expert content from the Mother and Child Hospital Harapan Kita, Jakarta. "It could because of growing tumors or content myom the wall, the placenta could be due to the rope caught on the baby's legs so that when the baby moves and despite the placenta interested. Case of accidents such as the mother's abdomen just hit something in which the placenta is attached can also cause the placenta separates."
Other cause, the case of pre-eklamsia (during pregnancy increases blood pressure and certain body parts to swell). Lucky if the release of the placenta when the fetus is old enough as experienced Yanti. For if the prior pregnancy was 7.5 months (infant weight 1400 -1500 g), the fetus is generally difficult to be saved.
Bleeding during pregnancy could also be because of blocking the baby's placenta. Here lies the abnormal placenta (placenta prefia) that is projected on the lower segment of the uterus, leading to the inner cervix. In the process, the longer, the more placenta covering the baby's way out. This case can also cause bleeding due to the occurrence of stretching or tightening of the lower part of the uterus that causes the lower part of the uterus so that the planting of the placenta interest shifted slightly.
"However, handling much easier than the first case earlier," said dr. Ontowiryo. "Because bleeding is not continuous, but, again, for example, every 3 - 4 weeks once and was not hurt. So the fetus can be sustained much longer," he added.
To maintain in order to avoid a contraction (the business of content to remove its contents), the doctor giving the drug, which is sometimes given intravenously, so that the content remains weak and the placenta does not shift. During pregnancy the mother's of course advised to restrict their daily activities (bed rest) until such time as delivery.
Bonds of blood and cervical
Because of the potential risks posed, as light as any bleeding that came out during the pregnancy should be wary of. We must monitor whether the blood stains appear only once, or many times. Was a great spot and increased with heartburn or not. If heartburn is usually accompanied by patches indicate a miscarriage. Because it was so looked out the red spots, immediately consult a doctor and a total rest.
With a total rest, blood flow to the uterus to be good so that bleeding is expected to be reduced. To check whether the fetus is still alive is usually examined by means of ultrasonography (USG). Temporary spots expenditure without a sense of heartburn can be treated with bed rest plus a pregnancy tonic.
However, we do not have to worry too much if there is bleeding. It could be bleeding from the cervix to open, or candidates who want to loose the placenta, or the way a baby covered.
Cervical condition is not good also can cause bleeding that ended in miscarriage. For example, the opening of the cervix before his time. These problems occur more frequently in women who experience miscarriage or childbirth often. In this latter case, the condition is less well serviksnya or tears in the vagina was not closed properly.
To avoid the occurrence of miscarriage, the cervix is already slightly open was tied or entangled with the "ribbon" and a new special reopened during pregnancy was old enough. During tied up, not recommended for contact with a partner can cause contractions. Besides "ribbon" penjeratnya hard!
When the fetus successfully maintained, after bleeding, the mother's health should not forget the body while avoiding stress. Food consumed should be highly nutritious as iron-rich foods, calories, and protein. Plus, enough vitamins and minerals. Ask the nutritionist's advice to the required structured menu.
Virus caused
Bleeding during pregnancy can also be an indication of irregularities in the pregnancy itself. The most worrying about if it happened in the first trimester of pregnancy. Bleeding in this period is a sign of miscarriage. In the early days of pregnancy, the fetus is still weak because the placenta has not been established. Development of the fetus from 1 - 3 months only depends on the role of hormones.
Naturally, there are certain women are "gifted" bleeding, which was followed by a miscarriage. To overcome, of course must be thoroughly searched the main cause. Having found the cause, there was a medical act.
Another thing that needs attention is the hormonal imbalance or disorder. In this case a miscarriage generally can not be avoided. Disruption of hormones supporting role in early pregnancy Pregnancy 1 - 3 months causes a fetus does not develop and autumn. So that does not happen again, before preparing the next pregnancy, the mother was given hormone therapy to hormone levels in balance said.
Abnormal fetus can also lead miscarriage. Abnormality was one of them due to lack of good quality seeds. For example because the mother's age above 35 years, suffering from chronic or severe illnesses such as tuberculosis of the intestine or seed quality is not good husband. Fetus itself normally would not be formed until finally stopped growing.
The fetus was not normal, can also result of Toxoplasma infection (the virus that is transmitted by cats and birds), Rubella, Herpes Virus 1 and 2 are called TORCH. These germs can not be killed but only revealed activeness and maternal immune system is increased.
Therefore, TORCH test needs to be done before deciding to become pregnant again. If levels of IGG (imunoglugolin) does not rise again, means stable or falling (the virus lost and helpless again). The mother may get pregnant again.
Durian and tape are prohibited?
Besides bleeding, nutrition was also worth noting to prevent miscarriage fetus. Because pregnancy must also not be supported by good nutrition? Unfortunately, with frequent nausea, dizziness and vomiting, often the mother's nutritional intake is impaired so that the energy is exhausted and the flow of oxygen to the tissue decreases. The result could be not strong uterine fetal maintain.
Similarly, if the mother had anemia or deficiency of red blood cells. Foods that brought together the red blood cells also become less so that less food and supplies automatically stunted fetal growth. Therefore, every pregnant mother is recommended to drink extra vitamins and eat foods that meet nutritional requirements as recommended doctors. High protein foods and vegetables and fruits more than the recommended high-carbohydrate foods. High-carb menu often causes the fetus is too large.
During pregnancy should also avoid eating foods high alcohol and a tape of durian.
"The good, usually the higher the alcohol," said dr. Ontowiryo. "And this part inhibit the growth of the fetus." If it is said that young pineapple can be an abortion, according to dr. Ontowiryo not true, unless there is great cause diarrhea cervical loosened. These doctors also added, drink plenty of water ice will not cause the fetus greater unless always be taken with the syrup. Coconut oil that purportedly can cause birth more smoothly, also the wrong view. "Coconut oil's only until the intestine, not the vagina!" specifically.
To prevent miscarriage, for pregnant mothers should not work hard, too tired, and avoid stress. Because excessive stress will increase adrenaline, causing constriction of blood vessels that results in a lack of blood flow to the uterus. If there Vaso contractions or a reaction to remove the womb the baby, it is feared will happen miscarriage.
Not less important is to prepare for a pregnancy. If previously perceived abnormalities, such as the growth of tumors, vaginal discharge, cervical infection, cysts, endometriosis experience, etc., need to be checked and treated so that when the pregnancy was the fetus can grow well and was born safely.